As a working mom, you may already feel overwhelmed, juggling dual
responsibilities of work and family. When it comes to networking – yet
another task – you may feel that “the time I’ve spent at networking has
never really paid off.”
Creating a personal and professional network is essential for your work
+ life success. That’s why working moms need to approach networking
with a different paradigm, explained below as a three-part process.
Relationship Building
Networking isn’t just about collecting business cards from people you
think may help you. It’s about planting seeds and nurturing long-term
relationships that mature over time.
As a mom, you may understand this process well because it calls upon the same nurturing skills you already use with your family.
Empowering Actions
How many times have you attended networking events and seen others
jabber on about themselves and frantically hand out dozens, if not
hundreds, of their cards? This frenetic approach only makes them look
weak. As a working mom, draw on that “Mommy” authority to engage in
empowering, networking actions.
They include:
* Give – Adopt a giving attitude. When you meet someone ask, “How can I
help you?” Always think, “Who could I connect them with to help them
meet their goals?” It’s a natural principle: The more you help others,
the more others will help you.
* Ask – Be bold. Always think, “you never know what will happen” and
“it’s worth a try.” If you meet a new contact and find you have an
instant connection, don’t be afraid to ask for help.
* Follow up - Getting introduced to the “right” people is important,
but it’s what you do after the introduction that really counts. If
you’ve felt a connection with a new contact, phone, email or send a
thank-you note within one or two days. Then, keep in touch
periodically, even if just to say, “Hi, it’s been awhile…”
Efficient Use of Time
You may be thinking, “I’d like to stay connected with people, but I
just don’t have the time.” Here are three ways to efficiently find time
to network:
* Lunch Hours – I’ve historically used my lunch hour, a coveted ME
time, to run errands, walk a mile or two or get my hair or nails done.
Yet, many associations and groups schedule networking meetings during
this time. So, I began to add networking lunches. It’s a great way to
preserve early-morning and evening family hours by substituting
networking lunches for breakfast meetings or evening mixers!
* “Coffee/lunch over the phone” – My business partner, Jo Della Penna,
introduced me to the idea of networking by scheduling “coffee over the
phone”. What a great idea! This is a more efficient way to meet. Plus,
neither party has to invest in driving time. When you want to spend
time with a colleague, try a relaxing “lunch over the phone” by
scheduling a lunch appointment, packing a lunch that day and calling at
the appointed time.
* Schedule in advance - Earmark your calendar to remind yourself to
re-connect with a contact periodically. If you meet a new contact
today, schedule the follow up call for two days later and plan a
“check-in” email within 60 days.
Remember, the key to networking is building a relationship over time.
By using the steps above you should succeed at establishing good
relationships that empower you and your business, and yet, don’t use
hours and hours of your time.
Terilee Harrison, The Business Mom, is Mom to Jackie (12) and Cole (4).
The Business Mom is helping mom entrepreneurs to “get a life” as they
juggle running their business and raising their family. For free
articles and to learn how you can contribute to Terilee’s upcoming
book, The Business Mom Guide Book: More Life, Less Overwhelm for Mom
Entrepreneurs (Wyatt-MacKenzie, Sept. 2006), please visit
www.thebusinessmom.com